Five Love Languages

This month of February is called the month of love. Everywhere you can see decorations of hearts, cupids and couples kissing and/or showing affection to each other. This celebration in general is not only for lovers, sweethearts or boyfriends/girlfriends out there but also for everyone where we can show our love to them – and be loved in return. But how are we going to show our love that can surely make them happy? Let’s get to know their love languages.

Language (lang-gwij) according to dictionary is a systematic means of communicating by the use of sounds or conventional symbols. The cognitive processes involved in producing and understanding linguistic communication and use to name things in a particular discipline. Love (lúv) again according to the dictionary is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection.

Then what is this “love languages”? This is the form of expressing your love towards the other person. We have different love languages and as per Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five different love languages namely words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch.

Words of affirmation
                People feel loved when they are affirmed. Compliments received means a lot to them. Also, they easily get hurt when they hear anything bad about them. They also love giving compliments, affirming their loved ones how they loved them through letters, emails or even directly telling to them.

Quality time
                Undivided attention is significant. They love to spend time with their loved ones. It is their way of showing their love and kindness to the people around them. For example, visiting a friend in a hospital means a lot to them. Postponed dates, not paying full attention and the like truly hurt their feelings. This love language is the most expensive among the five languages.

Receiving gifts
                People falling in this love language are not materialistic. They just feel loved by receiving a gift regardless of how much penny it cost. For them, they loved when receiving gifts because it shows that they are remembered and cared for. They also love to give gifts to others as a sign of their love.  Missed birthdays or anniversary gifts will be remembered. For me, these types of people are the easiest to deal with. Haha!

Acts of service
                This type of people shows their love by helping the household chores, or doing certain in an event. For them, act of service is the most effective way of showing affection, especially in the courtship stage. They also feel loved when they are being served. Lazy people and broken commitments are a no-no for them.

Physical touch
                This is not about getting sexual. People whom love language is physical touch tend to be touchy – but not TOO touchy. They show their love by hugs, holding hands, pats on the back and the like. Physical presence can fall in this category. It doesn’t have to be spending quality time but knowing that they can see and hear that person is already enough for them.
I fall to QUALITY TIME. I love spending time with my family and friends. And I feel loved when they spare their time for me, too. As we all know time is gold therefore it is precious. We can never go back to the past. That is why we can to spend it wisely.

Hope this helps you guys in showing your loved ones how you truly love them. It can be your guide to the people around and how we’re going to deal with them.

Happy Valentines Day! J


Sources:

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gary_Chapman_(author)

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